What Lube Should You Be Using? A Beginner’s Guide to Finding Your Match

Water-based, silicone-based, oil-based… and four flavours that make choosing a little more fun.

Let’s settle one thing before we get into the details: you don’t need to be an expert in sexual wellness to choose a good lube.

You just need to know what you’re looking for.

Maybe you want something that makes intimacy more comfortable. Maybe you’re curious about trying a flavoured lube. Maybe you’ve bought a bottle before and thought, “Okay, but which one is actually right for me?”

Fair question.

Lube is one of those little things that can make a noticeable difference to your experience. And once you understand the basics, choosing one becomes much less complicated.

So, let’s make it simple.

First things first: What does lube actually do?

Lubricant helps reduce friction during sexual activity, making intimate moments smoother and more comfortable. It can be useful when natural lubrication isn’t quite enough, and it can also add a little extra ease to the experience.

And no, needing lube doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to your partner.

Bodies don’t always follow the script. Stress, hormones, medication, and other factors can affect lubrication.

Sometimes you’re in the mood, but your body needs a little extra help. That’s normal. Lube is not a sign that something is wrong. It’s simply a comfort tool.

The three main types of lube

There are a few different types of lubricants, and each has its own strengths. The best one depends on how you plan to use it, what feels comfortable, and what you’re using alongside it.

1. Water-based lube: The easy everyday choice

If you’re new to lube, water-based is a great place to start. It’s versatile, easy to wash off, and generally compatible with condoms. It’s also a popular choice for use with many sex toys.

Why people like it:

• Easy to clean
• Lightweight feel
• Works well for everyday intimacy
• Generally compatible with latex condoms

The one thing to know: Water-based lube can dry out faster than some other types, so you may need to reapply.

Think of it as the dependable friend who always shows up. And if you like a little flavour in your intimate life, water-based lubes can make that experience a little more playful.

2. Silicone-based lube: For longer-lasting slip

Silicone-based lubes are known for being slippery and longer-lasting than many water-based options. They can be useful when you want a lubricant that doesn’t need frequent reapplication.

Why people choose it:

• Long-lasting
• Very slippery
• Generally compatible with condoms

Something to remember: Some silicone-based lubes may not be suitable for use with silicone sex toys, so check the product instructions before pairing them.

3. Oil-based lube: A little more complicated

Oil-based lubricants can last a long time, but they’re not the easiest choice for everyone. They can weaken latex and polyisoprene condoms, increasing the risk of breakage.

So if you’re using those condoms, water-based or silicone-based is the safer choice.

Oil-based products can also be harder to clean and may not be suitable for everyone, especially if you’re prone to irritation or certain infections.

The takeaway? Don’t choose a lube just because it feels slippery. Choose one that works for your needs.

So, which lube is right for you?

Here’s the quick version:

And if you’re still unsure, water-based is usually the simplest starting point.

What about flavoured lube?

Now we get to the fun part.

Flavoured lubes can add a little variety to intimate moments, especially if you enjoy oral intimacy or simply want to make things feel less routine. And honestly, sometimes a little Strawberry or Chocolate is all the “new experience” you need.

At Daywise, we have four flavoured water-based lubes:

• Strawberry: Sweet, playful, and a little fruity. A good choice if you like a flavour that feels familiar and fun.
• Chocolate: A little richer, a little more indulgent. For those who like their intimate moments with a hint of dessert energy.
• Vanilla: Soft, smooth, and classic. A subtle choice for anyone who prefers something a little more understated.
• Bubble Gum: Playful, nostalgic, and definitely not boring. For when you want to bring a little more personality into the bedroom.

The best flavour is the one you actually enjoy. No need to overthink it.

A few things to check before buying lube

• Is it compatible with condoms?
  Always check the label. Water-based and silicone-based lubes are generally compatible with latex condoms, while oil-based lubes can weaken them.
• Is it compatible with your sex toy?
  If you use toys, check the material and the lubricant’s instructions. Some silicone-based lubes may not be suitable for silicone toys.
• Does it feel comfortable?
  This is the most important part. If a lube causes irritation, burning, or discomfort, stop using it. A lubricant should make things feel better—not become the main event for all the wrong reasons.
• Do you need to reapply?
  Water-based lubes may need reapplication during longer sessions. That’s not a problem. It’s just how they work.

A little lube etiquette

A few simple tips can make the experience better:

• Start with a small amount and add more as needed.
• Use it wherever extra lubrication would make things more comfortable.
• Keep the bottle clean and store it according to the product instructions.
• If you’re trying a new product, pay attention to how your body feels.
• Don’t assume more is always better. The goal is comfort, not a science experiment.

The Daywise takeaway

Choosing lube doesn’t have to be complicated.

If you want something simple and versatile, water-based is a great starting point. If you want something longer-lasting, silicone-based may be worth exploring. And if you want to make things a little more playful, Daywise’s four flavoured water-based lubes give you plenty of options.

Strawberry. Chocolate. Vanilla. Bubble Gum.

Because intimacy can be comfortable and fun. And sometimes, the best thing you can add to your bedroom routine is simply a little more ease.